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Feb 02 2010

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The Victimization of Victims in the Porn Industry

There’s been times in my life when I’ve been told I need to be more diplomatic in the way I handle issues when dealing with other people. Of course, most of those times were during my tenure in Corporate America. Over the 15 years I worked in banking and investments, I learned all the proper ways to discuss matters though it really didn’t help the outcome any.

I wrote an entry in my blog at Porn In The Valley that I named “The Bar isn’t very High for Pornstars” where I talked about how in the porn industry, it was totally the opposite. It was one of the things I actually enjoyed about working in porn. You could do or say anything without surprising anyone. After all, we were just crazy porn whores so would you expect anything different?? I once had a porn producer tell me I was a mouthy broad to which I answered “I sure am” lol. I’ve never been one to mince words because I tend to tell it like it is. Now I just say “sometimes the truth hurts so deal with it”. The truths I talk about in my blogs are hard to stomach sometimes and there’s simply no way to say them where it makes the facts any easier to swallow.

As I continue to tell the story of Elli and I and our time working in the sex industries, you can see for yourselves that we had more than our fair share of trouble just trying to work there and survive. It’s extremely difficult to share some of these intimate details but I do it in the hopes that I can make a difference in someone else’s life. I do it in the hopes that somehow it will make our world a better place to live in for your children as well as mine. As if our story doesn’t tell it all with the cyber stalking and bullying, the harassment, the invasion of our privacy, the abuses we suffered through at some of our shoots and the theft of our work by those that we trusted. Legal recourse is always the suggestion of my readers and my friends. The problem with trying to accomplish that besides money, is getting the cooperation of the court system.

At the end of this month, it will officially be a year since I performed in my last porn scene. Over the past year, I’ve still kept in touch with many that are still working there in one capacity or another. More times than not whenever we talk, I hear more horror stories of abuses these girls have suffered. Here are just a few of their stories while keeping their confidentiality so that no one knows who I’ve been talking to.

I know 3 girls personally who have been raped. One told her agent who told her to forget it and move on. She was very young and hadn’t ever had anal sex before until that night. He held her down and raped her anally and then she was told to forget it and go on. Within a couple of days, she was scheduled more shoots and went back to work. Can you imagine what she had gone through that night and then had to go have sex with some other random guys??

The next is a girl I know very well and she was held down and raped by someone she trusted as a friend. She filed a complaint with the police. She had the scrapes and bruises to show she was forced into this act. She had actual hand print bruises where he had held her in place while he raped her. When her case got to the prosecutor of LA County, he dropped the case because he said he couldn’t win it. He said she was sex worker so they didn’t have a chance. I guess Porn Valley has done a great job of making everyone think if you’re a porn performer, you enjoy getting forced to have sex against your will. This is what they’ve done to our country. This is what they’re doing to women’s right everywhere!!

The last was drugged and raped in her own bed by someone she thought was a friend. I am the only one she’s talked to about this because there’s just nowhere else to go for help when you’re a sex worker. You see, you can’t trust to be alone with anyone in the porn industry these days because your chances of becoming a victim of abuse in this industry is also much higher than in the real world. The men in this industry know they can get away with whatever they want to. They can steal your product. They can abuse your body. They can rape your very soul. They can ruin your reputation and laugh about it all in public forums under their aliases. I’ve seen women who’ve worked in porn for years have their careers destroyed because they tried to get away from a man who also works in the same industry.

We know there’s an award winning producer at one of the top companies who uses his power and position to prey on the young girls who are new to the industry. He gets their hopes up;for a role within his movies. He schedules a go see;through the agents;so these girls think they are safe to go before him to get their big break. EVERYONE knows this producer takes advantage of the girls. They know he tells the girls that he will put them in his next movie if they have sex with him when he has no intention of doing so. He did this to Elli and 5 other girls I know and 4 out of the 6 had sex with him but all 6 have never gotten a call back. They sure didn’t;get any role. When Elli turned him down on both sexual intercourse and oral sex, he said that’s okay, I still want to take photos for that role. He then proceeded to masturbate while he took them. Can you imagine how awkward she felt while she posed?? The CEO;of this company is a woman who has been there for years. She’s fully aware of his;predatory behavior yet she does nothing. I’ve talked to many veterans and elders of Porn Valley and was told he’s been doing this for the past 20 years. This is the type of behavior that should land this guy behind bars but instead, he’s praised for winning awards. The bottom line is all that really matters in Porn Valley is the money. If a girl can’t take it, there’s always another one coming in right behind her!!

If that isn’t enough, check out this INTERVIEW with 20 year old pornstar, Tanner Mayes, who describes the abuses she’s suffered through during her young career of 2 years (that means she started at 18 in the porn industry). When I first saw this interview, I cried for this girl. I know exactly how used she must have felt. I understood how something like this could shake one’s ability to trust down to the very core of her soul. I also understood how helpless she must have felt because there’s absolutely no recourse against these men. After all, as Steve Hirsch and John Stagliano say, “it’s porn and ain’t nobody going to do anything to change it”!!

If you try to go through the court systems to fight them, you’re told you don’t have a chance since you’re a sex worker. Just think about where you have to put your mind to get past these traumatic experiences and continue to work with the same perpetrators who have violated your very existence in life. These are the girls I fight this battle for and I’ll fight the rest of my life if I have to to help bring these girls a safer and equitable work environment. I’ll fight as long and as hard as it takes to get these girls back to the real world where they can enjoy a successful life as they deserve. These girls need justice for the abuse they have suffered. They need the government to step in and help them to reclaim their lives!!

There’s just no place for diplomacy when we’re dealing with America’s court systems who continually victimize the victims in Porn Valley. If the government doesn’t step in and change things here, it’s like telling these girls they deserved what they got and if that’s so, there’s no hope for ANY woman to be safe in our country!!

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